Friday, July 11, 2008

Human Psychology..

A kinda feel that it’s a strange topic for me to blog on this topic as I believe I am NOT that old to write on this J. But I wanted to share some thoughts that I read in a book recently. The author of the book explained the different human psychological patterns and the key to understanding the different patterns. Though I don’t remember all the content of the book, I would just wish to share a few points available in the book.

One of the most crucial aspects of the human psychology is the ability of a person to interact with one another. In the book, Human Communication is defined as 10 digit mobile number. Even if we dial one number wrong we could miss the communication link it seems, which I feel is quite true. The book states that while communicating we need to understand the nature of person, his present mental position, his surrounding and mostly importantly the topic of the conversation. If that’s very tough to comprehend then the book gives a simple solution. Just give yourself a 5 sec breather time, wherein you can asses the situation and present your thoughts. I guess in present day life its tough to follow but I am trying to practice it.

The second point is related to the first. It relates to the old clichéd adage “First impression is the Best impression”. The book states that most people remember the first meeting or a first movie with a friend more than any other instance. So I guess it’s important to make the First Best impression. I guess the solution to this is again the 5 second breather time method.

The other main thing is ego. Ego is kinda related to self-respect of the individual. For example a friend unknowingly teases or hurts his friend, then the friend feels humiliated and wants to get back at that friend and that creates a bad environment between them. If it’s a boss scolding his junior then the worker has no way to show it back and he in turn shows it to somebody near him. So there can be a big amount of bad energy created by these small events. The solution to this would be watch once words before they speak as anger is quite contagious like flu. Anger is another expression more closely related to Ego. I guess I need not explain things on anger J as everybody has got tons of it including me. But the point specified in the book is if anger helps you solve a problem then it might just be a temporary solution. The real solution would be to understand what infact caused the problematic situation. Whenever I get angry, I would kind think whether my anger would help me solve the problems. They actually do not and sometimes further complicates the problem. So this thought has kinda reduced my anger. I somehow don’t believe in the laughter or any theory on controlling angry as these are temporary solutions. The permanent solution is to eradicate situations that cause anger.

The last and the most important thing in human psychology are relationships. According to me and the book (Both same opinion ... strangely J ) relationship are kinda strange. They mostly depend on the situations around them. Relationships require constant care. The mom-daughter-son-sis-bro-father and friends relationships are easy compared to lovers or relative’s relationship. The reason is that the latter relationships expect more out of you and understand you a little less J.

So I believe this kinda boring blog would have helped you gain some insight into how human psychology works. You would know all these facts but would not have read about them. Do let me know if these hints have helped you in your life.